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Sexual health doesn’t begin and end in the doctor’s office. Unfortunately, while most doctors have plenty of training to be experts in the areas of reproduction and sexual dysfunction, sexual pleasure isn’t something they’re necessarily comfortable talking about. For one, most physicians don’t have the time during a routine appointment to problem-solve what could be preventing you from reaching orgasm when the cause could be psychological, physical, medical, or even relational. That’s why it’s essential to incorporate a whole-body, integrated view of sexual health. 

 

What Holistic Sexual Wellness Is

You might get the all-clear from your doctor at your annual pap smear but still have a sinking feeling that you could be feeling better. Most doctors aren’t equipped to ask enough questions to help with symptoms of sexual dissatisfaction or chronic sexual pain. Further, most of their practice is dedicated to healing disease or helping with period symptoms or difficulty becoming pregnant. 

 

If you want to dive deeper into sexual issues, you might feel like you’re on your own. And turning to Dr. Google is always a gamble. To truly understand what is going on in your sex life, you’ll want to think about many components, including your physical health and extending to your relationship health, intellectual stimulation, and spiritual and emotional vitality. It’s important to consider what messages your genitals would tell you if they could speak—what their experience has been. Do you feel pain, numbness, or distraction during sex? Putting a name to exactly what your genitals are experiencing is an excellent way to start. 

 

Next, think about what your goals are. How do you want sex to feel—physically, emotionally, and relationally? What are some of the barriers between you are your ideal sex life? Sometimes, the barriers can be hard to spot unless you have a neutral third party who can help you see things that would otherwise stick in your blind spot. What does sexual wellness feel like to you?

 

Talking to Your Doctor

Just because you’d like to incorporate holistic sexual wellness doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk to your doctor. You should! Annual appointments are crucial. It might be a good idea to write down the questions you have throughout the year so that you don’t forget them when you’re sitting face to face with your doctor. Realize that doctors hear all kinds of questions, so do your best to put any shame on the back burner and boldly ask whatever’s on your mind. They may refer you to a specialist, but at least you’ll know you’ve done your part to learn all you can about your body.

 

A Mind-Body Approach

The mind and body aren’t truly separate entities, so using your mind and body together is a powerful way to find holistic sexual wellness. Your mind is an essential tool in your sexual wellness tool kit since it’s one of the best ways to effect change in your life. Sometimes, the keys to a satisfying sex life lie locked in your psyche, and you need to unlock them before you can experience freedom. 

 

Getting to know your body is an integral part of mind-body wellness. A great way to do this is to start a masturbation practice. Use a mirror, if you haven’t before, and see the parts of yourself that you usually can’t. You’ll be able to identify and label parts that feel good or parts that cause pain. You can describe types of touch that increase arousal or stop it altogether. This is also a good idea for your physical health, so you can learn what’s normal for you, and you’ll notice if you experience vaginal changes, in which case you should speak with your doctor. 

If you’d like professional help achieving your ideal sex life, reach out to a trusted therapist today!

 

 

Bio: Dr. Nazanin Moali is a clinical psychologist and sex therapist in the Los Angeles area. She works with various individuals to understand and improve their sexuality. Dr. Moali conducts personal consultation sessions in her Torrance and Hermosa Beach offices, or via a secure, online video-counseling platform. Click here to take the sex quiz for women.

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