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Erectile dysfunction is on the rise, and the Internet can be part of the problem. Here’s what you need to know to set healthy boundaries online while navigating the landscape of AI, social media, and porn. 

 

Thinking About Porn Use

Porn can be an easy way to experience release for anyone who experiences erectile unpredictability—sometimes, it’s too easy. Porn takes the pressure off performance (if you’re not watching with a partner), and voila! A difficult-to-maintain erection can rise seemingly out of nowhere. However, relying solely on porn ignores the underlying problem of not being able to get or stay hard when you want to get intimate with your partner. 

 

It’s important to reflect on your porn use. Does it enhance your sexual relationship? Or do you find it harder to want to interact with your partner, thanks to the porn? If your porn use means you masturbate so frequently that sex feels like an afterthought, you may want to alter your habits. 

 

Further, mainstream porn can sometimes make people more self-conscious about their bodies and their sexual performance. If watching mainstream porn highlights your sexual insecurity, it’s not doing you any favors. Switching to audio or written erotica or watching porn starring people of different sizes and abilities can help redefine what pleasurable sex can look like for you. 

 

There’s a lot of information on the world wide web about porn addiction, but much of it is prone to theatrics. Yes, porn addiction happens, but there are also a lot of people consuming porn in a healthy way that enhances their relationships. If porn is nothing but an enhancement to your masturbation routine and partnered sex, then don’t try to fix what’s not broken.

 

Social Media Complicates the Situation

Social media has become an integral part of many people’s lives, careers, and interactions. But it can cramp your sex life if you’re not careful. How you interact with people on the Internet can cause jealousy or even be considered cheating in some relationships. Feeling unsafe in your relationship can devastate your libido. Be sure your social media boundaries are clear with your partner so that you don’t break their trust. 

 

AI Is on the Scene, Too

AI is exploding right now, and it will likely increase the ease with which you can have a sexual experience with someone other than a romantic partner. The newfound accessibility can be helpful for those who are looking for a brief sexual encounter and nothing more. But repeated use may change your expectations of partnered sex, viewing it as purely transactional or as a one-way pleasure channel. AI won’t be a perfect substitute for human interaction, so it should be treated like pornography—an enhancement, not a replacement. 

 

Releasing Shame and Finding a Solution

Nobody wants to experience sexual dysfunction, but so many people do. The good news is that with so many people having the same experience, the stigma is decreasing. There is strength in numbers, and people with penises are talking about what obstacles they face in the bedroom to their friends, doctors, and partners. 

 

Further, there is strength in anonymity. In the age of the Internet, you can join forums to find out about other people’s erection issues and what worked for them. So don’t let shame get in the way of getting what you need. Addressing anything that contributes to your sexual discontent takes courage, focus, and the ability to be proactive. Identifying and solving the problem shows that you care about your health and your partner’s satisfaction and that you’re willing to act. Those qualities are something you should be proud of.

 

The Pill Has Limits

If you talk to your doctor, you might get a prescription. Viagra can work if your sex dysfunction is purely vascular. However, if there is any component of performance anxiety or other psychological distress, the pill alone won’t take care of the issue. Taking a holistic view of your sexual health can help you resolve all the issues, so it’s important to reflect on porn use and how the Internet in general informs your sex life before pinning all your hopes on a prescription. Further, it can prevent panic from setting in if you try Viagra and it doesn’t immediately improve your situation. Other issues may be in play, and getting help from a sex therapist can help you get a better handle on the situation. If you’re able to get hard but not stay hard, check out my video about why that might be the case:

The Next Step

Working with a professional can help you get the best results. If that’s what you need, contact me for a free consultation.

 

 

Bio: Dr. Nazanin Moali is a clinical psychologist and sex therapist in the Los Angeles area. She works with various individuals to understand and improve their sexuality. Dr. Moali conducts personal consultation sessions in her Torrance and Hermosa Beach offices, or via a secure, online video-counseling platform.  Click here to take the sex quiz for women.

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