On this episode of the Sexology Podcast, I talk with Dalychia Saah about the incredibly important topic of pleasure. We constantly feel the need to be doing yet we rarely focus on feeling. We rarely focus on what we truly desire. We see our purpose as a measure of how we are contributing to the productivity of society. This leaves little room for pleasure.
We also tend to feel guilty when it comes to pleasure. We’ve even coined the phrase guilty pleasure. This makes it hard to get out of our heads and into our bodies. We are always in our heads. We also often say ‘how are you doing?’, but rarely ask ‘how are you feeling?’.
While it might seem counterintuitive, the most important sexual relationship is one with yourself. Masturbation doesn’t have to be and shouldn’t be a place holder or seen as less beneficial than partner sex. It can be a very powerful form of self-care. At the same time it’s important to start paying more attention to your body. We tend to ignore our bodies all day and then expect our bodies to automatically turn on for sex. It doesn’t work that way.
- Internal and external obstacles when it comes to experiencing pleasure
- Centering pleasure
- Need to feel productive all the time
- Doing vs feeling
- Putting your pleasure in the hand of someone else
- Pleasure as a pathway to sexual liberation
- Shame around body and sexual
- Tapping into the feeling of pleasure
- Acknowledging what your body wants
- Using pleasure as your map
- Tapping into your senses
- The power of masturbation
About Dr. Nazanin Moali
Dr. Nazanin Moali is a clinical psychologist, sex expert, sexologist and sex therapist in the Los Angeles area. Dr. Moali has helped couples and individuals overcome sexual concerns, including pornography addiction. Dr. Moali hosts confidential consultation sessions for clients and potential clients in her Torrance and Hermosa Beach offices. You can also book a session with her online, via a secure video-counseling platform.
About Dalychia Saah
Dalychia Saah (she/her) is a sexuality educator, professor, writer, and speaker. Through her words and work, Dalychia facilitates space for people to connect deeper with their desires for their body, relationships, life, and our world. She is passionate about people unlearning oppressive norms that are externalized, inter-personalized, and internalized that keep us from moving towards a more liberated way of being. Dalychia believes that systematic forms of oppression can be overthrown by a reclamation of intra- and interpersonal power.
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