Welcome to episode 25 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Jessa Zimmerman, who outlines some of the most common mistakes couples make in the bedroom, and how to develop a healthy sexual relationship!
Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed mental health counselor and a nationally certified sex therapist. She works in private in downtown Seattle and specializes in working with couples struggling with issues of sex and intimacy.
Jessa earned a Masters in Psychology from LIOS Graduate College of Saybrook University, working through a program that emphasized family systems theory and experiential learning. Upon completion of that degree, she earned a Certificate in Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan. Combining those credentials with many hours of supervision and client work, she earned her certification as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She has pursued advanced training in approaches to couples therapy, including Crucible™ Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT).
Jessa has developed an online quiz that helps couples get a sense of the health of their relationship across several parameters. One of those measures is sexual avoidance. She is currently writing a book on the topic of the avoidance cycle and how couples can address the issues that cause them to avoid sex so that they can share a fulfilling sex life.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Why she created her quiz; how healthy is your sex life?
- Healthy aspects of sexuality Jess see’s in couples
- How couples can slowly lose interest in sex and need new fantasies
- The pressure of running out of new ideas for sex
- Deepening your relationship to help increase intimacy
- The need to be open and able to communicate with your partner about these issues
- Overcoming unresolved sexual issues that can spill into a relationship
- Contributing factors that lead to sexual avoidance
- How porn is sexual entertainment, not education
- The need to keep educated about sexual issues
- Ways in which you can begin to overcome sexual avoidance
- Developing healthy habits for your sex life