Welcome to episode 17 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lisa Firestone. In this episode, Dr. Firestone talks about the definition of the fantasy bond, childhood experiences that can affect your sexuality and the need for self-compassion around these issues.
Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012).
In this episode, you will hear:
- The definition of a “Fantasy Bond”
- How common it is for people to experience the Fantasy Bond
- Repeating destructive behaviours throughout different relationships
- Being able to experience healthy sexuality without acting out from your past
- Childhood experiences that can affect your sexuality
- Identifying if you’re reacting in a fantasy bond as opposed to reacting authentically
- The need for some people to have certain fantasies to be aroused
- The importance of being vulnerable with your partner in a relationship
- Overcoming the shame that not being vulnerable can create
- Why both partners in a relationship need to be authentic with each other
- Voice Therapy – How it works and its similarities to Narrative Therapy
- The need for self-compassion and not be too self-critical