Episode Overview
On this episode of the Sexology podcast, I’m joined by Rae McDaniel to talk about the difference between bi-sexuality and heteroflexibility. Rae is a certified sex therapist and an expert who specializes in sexuality and sex education. If you are curious about exploring your sexuality, this episode is for you.
Just because you enjoy same-sex porn doesn’t mean you are homosexual or bisexual. Porn is sexually relevant. We as humans are turned on by things that our brain connects to sex. It can mean things we don’t always think of. When we can take a step back and get really curious about what it is about this type of porn that turns you on, some of it may be a complete fantasy.
Typically, when people say heteroflexible, they mean in the right circumstances with the right person they are open to certain sexual acts with someone who is of a similar gender to themselves. Bi-sexual is usually referring to somebody who is consistently attracted to folks and interested in or having sex with people of different genders.
We have to be careful with correlations and causation when we are talking about this topic in particular. Our culture, at least in the US, says it’s totally okay as cisgender women to ‘be gay during college’ or experiment with women. On the reverse side, a cisgender man in our culture has very little flexibility to explore anything outside of a very small box of heterosexuality.
Highlights
- What does enjoying same-sex porn mean
- Getting curious about why something turns us on
- Bi-sexuality vs heteroflexibility
- Sexual flexibility in our culture
- Finding community through labels
- Taking steps to expand sexual orientation
- Expanding expectations of what you are looking for
- Do’s and don’ts when starting your journey
- Bring your whole self to a relationship
- Preventing the feeling of betrayal
About Dr. Nazanin Moali
Dr. Nazanin Moali is a clinical psychologist, sex expert, sexologist and sex therapist in the Los Angeles area. Dr. Moali has helped couples and individuals overcome sexual concerns, including pornography addiction. Dr. Moali hosts confidential consultation sessions for clients and potential clients in her Torrance and Hermosa Beach offices. You can also book a session with her online, via a secure video-counseling platform.
About Rae McDaniel
Rae McDaniel is a gender and certified sex therapist who works with folks who are feeling anxious and lost between the transition they are experiencing in sex, gender, sexual identity or relationships. They also provide consultation and training for professionals and organizations wishing to up level their knowledge and expertise in these areas. Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a therapy and healing collective in Chicago, Illinois.
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