Cracking the Code of Female Desire, Arousal, and Orgasm
Women and men take very different paths toward orgasm. Historically, the female orgasm has been through the wringer. Doctors used to debate whether or not women could even have an orgasm, and then people thought that the female orgasm was necessary for procreation....
Understanding Sexual Fantasies and Their Place in Your Relationship
Think about your most vivid, enticing sexual fantasy—you might be able to explain where it came from and precisely why you find it so erotic. But, think about your strangest fantasy—can you say the same thing? Your brain is a sophisticated and intricate entity, and...
BDSM: A Healthy Part of Your Self-Care Routine
BDSM used to be stigmatized as something that damaged folks engaged in, and was, in general, considered a deviant kind of sexuality. For those who are unfamiliar, BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism. BDSM culture covers a broad spectrum of...
The Intersection of Self-Image and Sexuality
People who grow up without comprehensive sex education can have trouble understanding sex—and this problem manifests in many different ways. Even those who did get a good baseline sex education in all likelihood learned primarily about heterosexual sex and how to...
Pandemic Sex: How to Navigate It Safely
The new coronavirus that causes COVID-19 has swept around the world, closing down entire countries, overwhelming health care systems, and making its way into our bedrooms. Feeling lonely and a bit depressed during this isolating, frightening time is normal. Sex is a...
How to Be a Better Flirt
Just like there’s a fine line between friendship and romance, there’s also a fine line between casual chitchat and flirting. Knowing whether or not someone is flirting with you can be difficult, and so is upgrading a friendly convo to letting someone know you’re...
Having a Healthy Relationship Can Lead to Better Sex
Sometimes the obstacles to having a great sex life lie outside of the bedroom. Passionate sex may come easily early on in relationships, but creating long-term arousal and excitement is more challenging. Try the below tips to have a more satisfying, healthy...
4 Tips for Talking With Your Kids About Sex
Having “the talk” with your kids is something that many parents dread as much as kids do—but a lot of times, this is because the parents don’t have any solid guidance on how to make the conversation positive rather than awkward. Talking to your kids about sex early...
3 Steps Toward Redefining Your Sex Life
Photo by Dainis Graveris on SexualAlpha Some people consider sex a primal activity that should be intuitive, natural, and shouldn’t need a lot of discussion. But when you rely on instinct rather than critical thinking in your sex life, it’s easy to fall prey...
Moving From Toxic Masculinity to Healthy Masculinity
Though men and women experience many similar sexuality-related issues, the fact is that our society treats the genders differently. Parents are steered toward raising boys distinctly from girls, and interactions, toys, hobbies, and even jobs are still affected by...
Getting Rid of Your Sexual Inhibitions
There’s one thing that separates healthy, active, and continuously fulfilling sex lives from the rest, and that’s communication. Partners who can easily and frequently talk with each other about their subjective experiences when they have sex together can overcome...
What Mindfulness Looks Like in the Bedroom
Vulnerability and authenticity: you may have heard of them in your therapist’s office, but have you brought them up in your bedroom? It’s essential to do so, especially if you’re in a long-term relationship with your partner. The thing is, a lot of people think that...
Sexual Addiction, Boundaries, and Out of Control Behavior
A common issue brought up by my clients is whether or not their partner is exhibiting signs of sexual addiction or out of control sexual behavior. But the definition of truly out of control sexual behavior is not as broad as some may feel it should be. In the...
Becoming a Sexual Chemist
Most everyone grows up not having a perfect childhood. Even well-meaning parents, at some point, wound their children or give them a poor example of what a loving relationship looks like. Children who grew up in cold, unsympathetic households may experience hurt or...
Sex and Technology: How the Internet Can Affect Your Relationship
There’s no escaping the effect of technology on sex. Technology’s impact on sexuality has brought about both positives and negatives, and it has a lot more manifestations in our daily lives and relationships than just pornography. Couples can bond sexually from a...
Turning On the Female Body – Why Does It Seem so Hard (No Pun Intended) and How Can We Get There Easier?
Culturally, we have certain ideas about sex that are, for lack of a better term, inaccurate. Whether we can blame the media, male-dominated pornography or living in a patriarchal culture (or all of the above), its time to face the facts: our model of how sexuality is...
Break Up Your Sex Routine, Not Your Relationship
Long-term relationships all have one thing in common: they are long. And sometimes, sexual pleasure can suffer when people end up in a routine that’s fast but effective. But a long-term relationship—even one that’s monogamous—doesn’t have to equate with boredom. ...
How Does Shame Affect Our Pleasure and Orgasms?
Shame… ugh… we’ve all felt it. It’s one of the grossest feelings, and yet for many of us shame is deeply intertwined with our sexuality. Unfortunately, shame often gets in the way of the very reasons we’re having sex - intimacy, connection, pleasure and orgasm. ...
New Year’s Resolutions for a Sexy 2020
The New Year is nearly here, and you know what that means: it’s almost time to break your new year’s resolution. Only about 9% of people indeed keep their resolutions, so I’m here to help you develop some new year’s resolutions that will have a positive impact on your...
Men, Arousal, and Erections: Why They Don’t Always Come Together
Sexual frustration can occur for both genders, but for men, there is usually a visible sign of when their sexual arousal doesn’t 100% match their sexual interest. Our culture often stereotypes men as creatures who are constantly gripped by the presence of sexuality,...