Having Sex for the First Time Doesn’t Have to be Awkward. Here’s How.
Having sex for the first time with someone new is exciting, but it can also be a little bit awkward. Self-doubt can creep in at the worst possible moment. Having sex is a negotiation, and it’s essential to keep the focus on communication rather than trying to please...
Here’s What You Need to Know About Birth Control
Hormone-based birth control, which includes both pills and IUDs, are one of the most common ways people prevent pregnancy. Many women take birth control pills for a significant portion of their lives since it’s often a default form of contraception. Others are...
How to Take Your Relationship From Sexless to Sexy
During long-term relationships, it’s not uncommon to go through periods where you’re just not having much sex. When you do so much together—parenting, running a household, friends and family activities—sex can start to feel like one more thing on the to-do list. And...
What a Cancer Diagnosis Means for Your Sex Life
Sometimes, life throws you a curveball with a cancer diagnosis. While information abounds about how to cope mentally through treatment, it’s harder to find out about what you can expect for your sex life, which often changes. One of the problems is that most doctors...
Why Are So Many Sexual Assaults Not Reported to the Police?
Sexual assaults happen frequently, are seldom talked about, and even more rarely reported. We live in a culture where lyrics like “you know you want it” play on the radio, the president admits to sexual assault, and rapists seldom go to jail for their crimes. Yet,...
Heat Up Your Sex Life with Temperature Play
Many couples are interested in kink—so many that it’s almost mainstream. Unfortunately, many people first interact with kink through porn, which isn’t always a great representation of the real BDSM community since it’s only based on fantasy. If you’re interested in...
Identifying 6 Traits of a Sexual Narcissist
Some people turn out to be selfish lovers, which can come as a huge disappointment if you’re already invested in the relationship. A sexual narcissist is someone who is only focused on one thing: how they can get more sex. Suppose you encountered someone who feels...
How to Manage Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation affects many men. In fact, the CDC lists it as the most common sexual problem in men. Left untreated, it can take a toll on their relationships as well. The medical definition of premature ejaculation includes anyone who climaxes within one...
Overcoming Social Anxiety So You Can Meet Someone
Finding a partner to date can be intimidating, especially for people with social anxiety or other insecurities. If you’re too nervous to initiate a conversation, you’re going to miss out on a lot of opportunities to meet new people and perhaps kindle a romance. Many...
The 6 Most Important Things To Know About STIs
Part of being sex positive is acknowledging and mitigating the risks surrounding sex, including STIs (sexually transmitted infections). Culturally, the conversation about STIs is a minefield of stigma and shame. So, here are some tips on avoiding misconceptions about...
Socially Distant Dating Doesn’t Have to be a Drag. Here’s How.
When the pandemic hit, it turned everyone’s world upside down. People who are dating during the pandemic face a unique set of challenges. Most people aren’t willing to put their dating lives on hold for an entire year. Yet, understanding how to date during COVID-19 is...
The Pleasure You Deserve
What comes to mind when you think of pleasure? We are living in a culture that values efficiency, career-mindedness, and constant ambition, so pleasure sometimes takes a backseat to what we’ve accomplished throughout the day. But, much like a neglected friendship, if...
How Men Can Reawaken Their Sexual Arousal
There is a pernicious sexual stereotype about men that exists contrary to decades of research: that men are ready for and want sex at basically any time. Low desire is more commonly associated with women, but it can affect people of any gender. Find out why men...
Testosterone and Sexual Desire: What You Need to Know
Testosterone has a significant impact on sexual arousal, no matter what gender you are. If you have low testosterone levels, this can present challenges in the bedroom. What Happens Sexually as You Age As we get older, our hormone production levels dip. People of any...
Finding Feminist Porn
The fact that men tend to be more visual creatures that are ready for sexual stimulation quicker than most women is well established. Women often need context, story, or even banter to be a part of the equation in order to find sexual content arousing. Frequently,...
Fetish 101: How to Know If You Have One, What to Do If Your Partner Does
The word “fetish” conjures very different feelings in different people. Some have historically categorized it as a clinical disorder; for others, engaging in your fetish is the perfect way to spend Tuesday night. Fetish has no doubt faced more than its fair share of...
Sex Positivity and Religion: Can They Coexist?
People who grew up with religious families or who practice religion as adults sometimes have a complicated relationship with their sexuality. Many religions offer a specific script for what is okay versus what is wrong within sexuality. That script can leave a lot of...
Recognizing Psychopathic and Narcissistic Behaviors in Your Partner
There’s a significant difference between a relationship merely not working out, and suffering the aftermath of a breakup with someone who had a narcissistic or psychopathic personality disorder. If you’ve ever wondered if you’re in a relationship with someone who is...
Improve Your Sex Life With These Easy Tips
So many people want to learn how to be a better lover. Without knowing your background, it can be hard to provide tips that are relevant to you (although taking this quiz to find out what kind of lover you are would be a good...
Understanding – and Not Fearing – Your Sexual Fantasies
Fantasies are a healthy part of being human—this includes sexual fantasies, even when you’re in a monogamous relationship. Fantasies are the way your mind stays sexually creative and thinks about what is possible rather than what is actual. Creativity and sex are very...