Turning On the Female Body – Why Does It Seem so Hard (No Pun Intended) and How Can We Get There Easier?
Culturally, we have certain ideas about sex that are, for lack of a better term, inaccurate. Whether we can blame the media, male-dominated pornography or living in a patriarchal culture (or all of the above), its time to face the facts: our model of how sexuality is...
Break Up Your Sex Routine, Not Your Relationship
Long-term relationships all have one thing in common: they are long. And sometimes, sexual pleasure can suffer when people end up in a routine that’s fast but effective. But a long-term relationship—even one that’s monogamous—doesn’t have to equate with boredom. ...
How Does Shame Affect Our Pleasure and Orgasms?
Shame… ugh… we’ve all felt it. It’s one of the grossest feelings, and yet for many of us shame is deeply intertwined with our sexuality. Unfortunately, shame often gets in the way of the very reasons we’re having sex - intimacy, connection, pleasure and orgasm. ...
New Year’s Resolutions for a Sexy 2020
The New Year is nearly here, and you know what that means: it’s almost time to break your new year’s resolution. Only about 9% of people indeed keep their resolutions, so I’m here to help you develop some new year’s resolutions that will have a positive impact on your...
Men, Arousal, and Erections: Why They Don’t Always Come Together
Sexual frustration can occur for both genders, but for men, there is usually a visible sign of when their sexual arousal doesn’t 100% match their sexual interest. Our culture often stereotypes men as creatures who are constantly gripped by the presence of sexuality,...
Is a Non-Monogamous Relationship Right for You and Your Partner?
Have you ever thought about opening exploring a lifestyle of non-monogamy with your partner? If so, are you afraid of admitting it? Are you scared it might ruin your relationship? The subject of non-monogamy is pretty taboo in our society, and that means most people...
Why Isn’t There More Woman-Centered Porn? How Can You Find What IS Out There?
Porn has always been a hot topic, but its never been as widespread as it is today. Thanks to the internet, and in the last decade, smartphones – what we once had to buy in person, often at a creepy location where we wouldn't want to be caught, now we have 24/7 access...
Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: What Good Sexual Communication Is, and What It Is Not
Do you struggle to talk to your partner about sex? You're hardly alone! Some people are uncomfortable broaching the topic AT ALL! Others might feel okay with “fun” sex talks, about fantasies or turn-ons, but struggle addressing problems or issues within the...
How to Get Your Brain Ready for Sex
The first step to having great sex is experiencing complete and total turn-on. If you’ve ever had a night where you felt like you had too much on your mind to be in the mood for sex, then you understand what support or hindrance the brain can be in reaching orgasm....
Making Sex Feel New in a Long-Term Relationship
As a sex therapist, I see themes of issues that affect everyone’s sex lives in different ways. Some of the advice I give frequently is to clients who repeatedly ask what they can do to reconnect sexually in their long-term relationship. Below, I’ve compiled my top...
Feeling Sexy in the Body You Have
People who experience body dissatisfaction often suffer from sexual dissatisfaction, as well. The overlap is caused by many things. Sometimes it’s caused by a sexually traumatic experience, but often it’s purely shame. Our culture’s narrow and inflexible view of...
I’ve Gained Some Weight…What Should I Do?
We are constantly inundated with messages that tell us that unintentional weight gain is bad and unwanted. Think about the many times you were “warned” about the side effects of a medication. For instance, some of the side effects of a certain antidepressant include...
Creative Ways to Make Sex Last Longer AND More Enjoyable
Men with erectile problems are often concerned with making sex last longer, imagining that this will lead to more pleasure for their female partners. It is wonderful when a man cares so deeply about his partner’s pleasure. At the same time, the length of sex is only...
I Have an Eating Disorder – Will My Child Have One, Too?
If you’re a parent with a history of an eating disorder, you may struggle with fear that your child will also develop an unhealthy relationship with food and their body. Eating disorders do have a genetic component; thus, a child whose parent has a history of an...
Thinking Back: Your Earliest Sexual Thoughts and Memories
Have you ever heard that masturbation will cause hairy palms? (Spoiler alert: it won’t!) Most of us have grown up in societies and cultures that predominantly shame sex, except, perhaps for explicit “baby making.” This means the vast majority of us have faced shame...
Eating Disorder Prevention
Can you prevent an eating disorder? Many of my clients in recovery (and their parents) often ask themselves what they could have done differently to bypass the eating disorder path. While certain medical concerns have clear preventative measures (i.e. practicing safe...
Overwhelmed by Sexual Shame? There’s a Way Out!
Shame is a very isolating emotion, which is ironic when it comes to sex - because SO MANY of us feel all alone in our shame. It is an overwhelming sense of shame that keeps many of us from being honest, open and authentic with the people we care for most. For some,...
Is Obesity an Eating Disorder?
As a budding eating disorders therapist, I am always excited to see that other mental health providers offer treatment for disordered eating and body image concerns. Recently, I have noticed that some mental health clinicians will advertise that they treat obesity or...
Keeping Sex Sexy While Dealing With Fertility Challenges
Many adults spend a good portion of their sex lives trying to prevent pregnancy, so when couples decide to take the next step into parenthood, it can be frustrating and disappointing to get a negative test for months on end. Far too often, sex that was once for fun,...
Birthdays and Eating Disorders
Imagine that today is your birthday. The common expectation is that you will be experiencing feelings of excitement and anticipation as you take part in special plans with your loved ones, or do something new and spontaneous to acknowledge the day. The goal is to...