Getting Your Sex Life Back After Trauma
Shame isn’t just an emotion. For sexual trauma survivors, shame can show up in your body. Your emotional and physical boundaries are violated during a sexual assault, so it makes sense that you deal with shame in both places afterward. Below are some tips on how to...
Tips for Women Who Feel Disconnected From Their Bodies
It can be difficult for people of any gender—but especially women—to move from their minds into their bodies. Unfortunately, women are often socialized to see their bodies as a project that they should improve, rather than a vessel that can provide them endless...
Jealousy is a Two-Way Street. Here’s How to Combat It
Jealousy is a confusing emotion, but it’s also a super common experience. If you enter into a relationship with someone you love, you risk feeling jealous at some point. We often feel compelled to stuff jealous feelings down since it’s a form of insecurity, yet...
What Does Sexual Boredom Look Like?
If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s almost certain that at some point, you will find you’re in a sexual routine. Sexual boredom is common, but there’s not much information on how to move beyond it. Most people want to find a relationship with love, connection,...
Overcoming Sexual Insecurity
What makes someone good in bed? What makes sex good? When you watch movies, you see a common theme of primarily heterosexual couples where the man wants sex all of the time, can get an erection at the drop of a hat, and the woman has a screaming orgasm after about 45...
Is a Boring Sex Life Just Part of Getting Older?
Do older married couples have amazing sex? Yes, some of them do. Let’s take a look at what separates intense, incredible sex for a lifetime from sex that fizzles out after a few years together. Having Sex as You Age Many people believe that their sex life is doomed...
Does Cannabis Live Up to the Hype in the Bedroom?
Cannabis is legal in many states now, so many people want to know what kind of an impact cannabis can have on your sex life. Cannabis has many various recreational purposes, but what does the science have to say about its efficacy on sexual problems? Let’s talk about...
Why We Need More Than Consent to Have Good Sex
Consent is the most fundamental part of any positive sexual encounter. But our conversations about consent could use some more depth. Asking for consent isn’t as simple as it sounds—and neither is giving it. So, let’s talk about why consent shouldn’t be the only focus...
Attaining the Ever-Elusive Orgasm During Sex
Having an orgasm doesn’t come easily to everyone—no pun intended. Whether due to culture, the stigma around masturbation, or lack of sex education, finding out how to pleasure yourself takes effort and persistence. As a sex therapist, I believe anyone who wants to...
Don’t Let a Diabetes Diagnosis Hamper Your Sex Life
A significant portion of the population is diabetic, and for many, this diagnosis feels like the death knell for their sex life. Happily, you can get back to a satisfying sex life even when you have diabetes. Below are some tips on how to do just that. What Happens to...
What’s Standing Between You and Your Ideal Erection
As men age, it’s incredibly common for their erections to change in size and duration. Due to the natural process of aging, many people jump to the conclusion that changes in their erections are erectile dysfunction. However, erectile dysfunction is a specific...
Having Sex for the First Time Doesn’t Have to be Awkward. Here’s How.
Having sex for the first time with someone new is exciting, but it can also be a little bit awkward. Self-doubt can creep in at the worst possible moment. Having sex is a negotiation, and it’s essential to keep the focus on communication rather than trying to please...
Here’s What You Need to Know About Birth Control
Hormone-based birth control, which includes both pills and IUDs, are one of the most common ways people prevent pregnancy. Many women take birth control pills for a significant portion of their lives since it’s often a default form of contraception. Others are...
How to Take Your Relationship From Sexless to Sexy
During long-term relationships, it’s not uncommon to go through periods where you’re just not having much sex. When you do so much together—parenting, running a household, friends and family activities—sex can start to feel like one more thing on the to-do list. And...
What a Cancer Diagnosis Means for Your Sex Life
Sometimes, life throws you a curveball with a cancer diagnosis. While information abounds about how to cope mentally through treatment, it’s harder to find out about what you can expect for your sex life, which often changes. One of the problems is that most doctors...
Why Are So Many Sexual Assaults Not Reported to the Police?
Sexual assaults happen frequently, are seldom talked about, and even more rarely reported. We live in a culture where lyrics like “you know you want it” play on the radio, the president admits to sexual assault, and rapists seldom go to jail for their crimes. Yet,...
Heat Up Your Sex Life with Temperature Play
Many couples are interested in kink—so many that it’s almost mainstream. Unfortunately, many people first interact with kink through porn, which isn’t always a great representation of the real BDSM community since it’s only based on fantasy. If you’re interested in...
Identifying 6 Traits of a Sexual Narcissist
Some people turn out to be selfish lovers, which can come as a huge disappointment if you’re already invested in the relationship. A sexual narcissist is someone who is only focused on one thing: how they can get more sex. Suppose you encountered someone who feels...
How to Manage Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation affects many men. In fact, the CDC lists it as the most common sexual problem in men. Left untreated, it can take a toll on their relationships as well. The medical definition of premature ejaculation includes anyone who climaxes within one...
Overcoming Social Anxiety So You Can Meet Someone
Finding a partner to date can be intimidating, especially for people with social anxiety or other insecurities. If you’re too nervous to initiate a conversation, you’re going to miss out on a lot of opportunities to meet new people and perhaps kindle a romance. Many...