Low Desire? Check Your Medicine Cabinet
Sometimes when a health problem is corrected, a sexual problem crops up in its place. Certain medications are culprits more often than others. For instance, antidepressants that fall into the category of SSRIs (which stands for Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors)...
How to Get Into BDSM
BDSM is a widespread fantasy, and for some, it’s a necessity in their sexual routine. It’s no longer some fringe corner of sexuality that is too taboo to mention. BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. That’s a lot...
How to Master Communication in an Open Relationship
If you’ve never considered an open relationship, you might be missing out on some of the benefits. Polyamory can be a scary, difficult topic for couples to discuss. Yet boundaries on your commitment are imperative for any couple to talk about—even those who will...
What It Means to Be “Good in Bed”
As a sex therapist, a lot of people ask for tips on how to be better in bed and meet their partner’s needs sexually. With women, sometimes there’s a concern that pleasing their lover is just another item on an already long list of obligations. But for many people,...
How to Heal Your Sexual Shame
Shame is not only uncomfortable to experience, it also places constraints around your sexuality. Shame can force you to hide even when you have found someone that you want to share yourself with fully. Here’s how to heal from shame and start embracing your erotic...
Becoming Yourself Again: How to Overcome Sexual Assault-Related Problems
Sadly, sexual assault is a widespread experience for both women and men. And those who have experienced an assault can suffer from lasting sexual issues. The path forward is difficult, but feasible. Here’s what survivors and partners of survivors should know about...
Getting Back to Great Sex After Trauma
Sexual trauma is a common—yet isolating—occurrence. When traumatic sexual experiences interfere with your sex life, it can diminish the satisfaction that you feel. Working through this to reprioritize your pleasure can be difficult, but it is rewarding. Bodily...
Body Shaming Within Relationships: What to Do When Your Partner Has a Problem With Your Body
We All Want to Be Wanted “I want you to want me,” sang the '70s band Cheap Trick. We all want to be wanted, to be desired for the person we are and for the body we have. There’s nothing silly or shallow about that - chemistry is built on a mutual back-and-forth...
How to Use Your Sexual Fantasies to Improve Your Sex Life
Monogamy is a tricky thing, and in most cases, that’s because people define it very differently. Many clients come into couples’ therapy worried because they found that their partner has fantasies about someone else, and they want to find out what this means for their...
When Pills Help Male Sexual Dysfunction, and When They Don’t
Men who have trouble maintaining erections have likely heard about the option of taking medication to help with the problem—but meds only help in certain scenarios. Know that, if you’re wondering whether or not you have erectile dysfunction, you’re not alone. Finding...
Cracking the Code of Female Desire, Arousal, and Orgasm
Women and men take very different paths toward orgasm. Historically, the female orgasm has been through the wringer. Doctors used to debate whether or not women could even have an orgasm, and then people thought that the female orgasm was necessary for procreation....
Understanding Sexual Fantasies and Their Place in Your Relationship
Think about your most vivid, enticing sexual fantasy—you might be able to explain where it came from and precisely why you find it so erotic. But, think about your strangest fantasy—can you say the same thing? Your brain is a sophisticated and intricate entity, and...
BDSM: A Healthy Part of Your Self-Care Routine
BDSM used to be stigmatized as something that damaged folks engaged in, and was, in general, considered a deviant kind of sexuality. For those who are unfamiliar, BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism. BDSM culture covers a broad spectrum of...
The Intersection of Self-Image and Sexuality
People who grow up without comprehensive sex education can have trouble understanding sex—and this problem manifests in many different ways. Even those who did get a good baseline sex education in all likelihood learned primarily about heterosexual sex and how to...
Pandemic Sex: How to Navigate It Safely
The new coronavirus that causes COVID-19 has swept around the world, closing down entire countries, overwhelming health care systems, and making its way into our bedrooms. Feeling lonely and a bit depressed during this isolating, frightening time is normal. Sex is a...
How to Be a Better Flirt
Just like there’s a fine line between friendship and romance, there’s also a fine line between casual chitchat and flirting. Knowing whether or not someone is flirting with you can be difficult, and so is upgrading a friendly convo to letting someone know you’re...
Having a Healthy Relationship Can Lead to Better Sex
Sometimes the obstacles to having a great sex life lie outside of the bedroom. Passionate sex may come easily early on in relationships, but creating long-term arousal and excitement is more challenging. Try the below tips to have a more satisfying, healthy...
4 Tips for Talking With Your Kids About Sex
Having “the talk” with your kids is something that many parents dread as much as kids do—but a lot of times, this is because the parents don’t have any solid guidance on how to make the conversation positive rather than awkward. Talking to your kids about sex early...
3 Steps Toward Redefining Your Sex Life
Photo by Dainis Graveris on SexualAlpha Some people consider sex a primal activity that should be intuitive, natural, and shouldn’t need a lot of discussion. But when you rely on instinct rather than critical thinking in your sex life, it’s easy to fall prey...
Moving From Toxic Masculinity to Healthy Masculinity
Though men and women experience many similar sexuality-related issues, the fact is that our society treats the genders differently. Parents are steered toward raising boys distinctly from girls, and interactions, toys, hobbies, and even jobs are still affected by...