Improving Your Seduction Game
Almost everyone would improve their seduction skills if given a chance, but learning how to seduce is a difficult task. In this case, it might be helpful to think back to school. How did you learn best? Were you a visual, kinesthetic, or auditory learner? Your...
How Body Image Affects Your Sex Life
As a therapist specializing in eating disorders and sex, I know that relationships with our bodies are profoundly complicated. And in a culture that has a narrow definition of beauty and is fat-phobic, we can feel that our outward appearance reflects who we are. How...
Erectile Dysfunction Treatment Options for Men
Erectile dysfunction is serious business and it can create relational issues that extend well beyond the bedroom. In severe cases, erectile dysfunction may necessitate prescriptions, injections, or surgery. But surgery is a significant, permanent step, so people will...
Child Sexual Abuse: Recovery and Pleasure
Sexual abuse is pervasive, unfortunately, and the age at which it happens has a profound effect on the recovery process for survivors. Turning the corner to experience a healthy, satisfying sex life can seem impossible. And sometimes, those who children trust the most...
Better Sex—With or Without an Erection
As men age, their sexuality changes, too. But people with penises that are used to having rock-hard erections whenever they want them may find that their needs are changing the older they get. If your erections are not what they used to be, find out how you can still...
Niceness: Why It’s Not Always a Constructive Trait
Nice guys, in the most straightforward use of the term, should be a great source of desirability, fun, and chemistry for those who are attracted to them. Almost everyone wants a partner who is gentle and kind, right? However, nice guys have earned a reputation not...
How to Give Your Kids a Sex-Positive Upbringing
Many of us grew up without the sex education we needed, even with sex-positive parents who tried their best. Prior generations were socially conditioned to think that talking about sex with your kids more than the barest of minimums was unnecessary, or worse,...
Avoiding Sex With Your Partner? Here’s How to Fix That
Gauging whether or not your sexual relationship is healthy can be tough. But, in general, several factors serve as canaries in the coalmine when something is awry and you find yourself avoiding sex with your partner. Find out how to determine the sexual health of your...
How to Have Your Most Amazing Orgasm Ever
What could be better than an orgasm? The only thing better than an orgasm is one that lasts longer and feels more powerful. Luckily, both are options for your sex life if you give it the time and effort it deserves. Clear Your Head First, you’re going to need to...
Conquering Sexual Performance Anxiety
Sexual performance anxiety comes in many shapes and sizes, and it affects people of all genders. It could be that you’re nervous about sex in general, whether you’re concerned about getting an erection or your mind is too busy for you to reach climax. Anxiety can...
Low Desire? Check Your Medicine Cabinet
Sometimes when a health problem is corrected, a sexual problem crops up in its place. Certain medications are culprits more often than others. For instance, antidepressants that fall into the category of SSRIs (which stands for Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors)...
How to Get Into BDSM
BDSM is a widespread fantasy, and for some, it’s a necessity in their sexual routine. It’s no longer some fringe corner of sexuality that is too taboo to mention. BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. That’s a lot...
How to Master Communication in an Open Relationship
If you’ve never considered an open relationship, you might be missing out on some of the benefits. Polyamory can be a scary, difficult topic for couples to discuss. Yet boundaries on your commitment are imperative for any couple to talk about—even those who will...
What It Means to Be “Good in Bed”
As a sex therapist, a lot of people ask for tips on how to be better in bed and meet their partner’s needs sexually. With women, sometimes there’s a concern that pleasing their lover is just another item on an already long list of obligations. But for many people,...
How to Heal Your Sexual Shame
Shame is not only uncomfortable to experience, it also places constraints around your sexuality. Shame can force you to hide even when you have found someone that you want to share yourself with fully. Here’s how to heal from shame and start embracing your erotic...
Becoming Yourself Again: How to Overcome Sexual Assault-Related Problems
Sadly, sexual assault is a widespread experience for both women and men. And those who have experienced an assault can suffer from lasting sexual issues. The path forward is difficult, but feasible. Here’s what survivors and partners of survivors should know about...
Getting Back to Great Sex After Trauma
Sexual trauma is a common—yet isolating—occurrence. When traumatic sexual experiences interfere with your sex life, it can diminish the satisfaction that you feel. Working through this to reprioritize your pleasure can be difficult, but it is rewarding. Bodily...
Body Shaming Within Relationships: What to Do When Your Partner Has a Problem With Your Body
We All Want to Be Wanted “I want you to want me,” sang the '70s band Cheap Trick. We all want to be wanted, to be desired for the person we are and for the body we have. There’s nothing silly or shallow about that - chemistry is built on a mutual back-and-forth...
How to Use Your Sexual Fantasies to Improve Your Sex Life
Monogamy is a tricky thing, and in most cases, that’s because people define it very differently. Many clients come into couples’ therapy worried because they found that their partner has fantasies about someone else, and they want to find out what this means for their...
When Pills Help Male Sexual Dysfunction, and When They Don’t
Men who have trouble maintaining erections have likely heard about the option of taking medication to help with the problem—but meds only help in certain scenarios. Know that, if you’re wondering whether or not you have erectile dysfunction, you’re not alone. Finding...