Parenting Trans or Gender Non-Conforming Children
Let’s face it: it’s tough to be a kid. But if you add to that the complication of being a child who doesn’t identify with the sex they were assigned at birth or is not heterosexual, it can be even more complicated. However, with the right support, parents can gently...
Getting Sex Right the First Time
Statistics have shown that whether you enjoy hookup sex depends primarily on your gender. Women are drastically less likely to climax during a first-time encounter with a new partner, while men reach orgasm most of the time. This unfortunate “orgasm gap” continues...
Negotiating Different Levels of Desire
Sometimes, the biggest barrier to a fulfilling sex life begins before you even have sex. Everyone experiences periodic dips and peaks of sexual desire. But, if there is a prolonged period where someone experiences low or no sexual interest, it could be a sign of a...
Avoiding Sex? Here’s How to Fix That
Sexual avoidance can take many forms. You may knowingly look for excuses to avoid the sexual problems you’re facing in the bedroom—or it may be completely subconscious. But either way, avoiding sex can be a straightforward path toward a sexless relationship. Let’s...
What Do Your Fantasies Mean About Your Committed Relationship?
In our culture, monogamy is emphasized as the one “true” way to have a relationship. For some people, these beliefs about fidelity go so far as to include fantasies. And yet, a lot of people find that what they fantasize about is far from the constrictive boundaries...
Creating Mindfulness In the Bedroom—Whether You’re Single or in a Relationship
Most of us didn’t grow up with a good understanding of what mindfulness is. And understanding what mindfulness means for your sex life is even rarer. However, to get the most out of your sex life, it’s essential to find a way to tune into your body and become a...
Women’s Orgasms: A Primer
Women’s relationship to their orgasms has historically been a little bit thorny. Unfortunately, a lot of women have never experienced orgasm due to several factors: sexual pain, partner’s lack of sexual education, or even hesitation to touch themselves. And when women...
Your Brain is Your Most Important Sex Organ. Here’s How to Use It.
Sometimes sex isn’t just sex. Sex can also be a way to get a deeper look at your brain and its relationship with pleasure. If you feel disconnected from sex, it could be because of how you receive pleasure. Many different things can happen when you are feeling sexual...
Easy Tips for Spicing Up the Marriage
It’s not a sign of a bad marriage if your sex life seems to stall after many years together. Rather, it’s the sign of two busy people. But spicing up the marriage doesn’t happen effortlessly—you have to take intentional steps in order to add fire into your bedroom....
Getting Your Sex Life Back After Trauma
Shame isn’t just an emotion. For sexual trauma survivors, shame can show up in your body. Your emotional and physical boundaries are violated during a sexual assault, so it makes sense that you deal with shame in both places afterward. Below are some tips on how to...
Tips for Women Who Feel Disconnected From Their Bodies
It can be difficult for people of any gender—but especially women—to move from their minds into their bodies. Unfortunately, women are often socialized to see their bodies as a project that they should improve, rather than a vessel that can provide them endless...
Jealousy is a Two-Way Street. Here’s How to Combat It
Jealousy is a confusing emotion, but it’s also a super common experience. If you enter into a relationship with someone you love, you risk feeling jealous at some point. We often feel compelled to stuff jealous feelings down since it’s a form of insecurity, yet...
What Does Sexual Boredom Look Like?
If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s almost certain that at some point, you will find you’re in a sexual routine. Sexual boredom is common, but there’s not much information on how to move beyond it. Most people want to find a relationship with love, connection,...
Overcoming Sexual Insecurity
What makes someone good in bed? What makes sex good? When you watch movies, you see a common theme of primarily heterosexual couples where the man wants sex all of the time, can get an erection at the drop of a hat, and the woman has a screaming orgasm after about 45...
Is a Boring Sex Life Just Part of Getting Older?
Do older married couples have amazing sex? Yes, some of them do. Let’s take a look at what separates intense, incredible sex for a lifetime from sex that fizzles out after a few years together. Having Sex as You Age Many people believe that their sex life is doomed...
Does Cannabis Live Up to the Hype in the Bedroom?
Cannabis is legal in many states now, so many people want to know what kind of an impact cannabis can have on your sex life. Cannabis has many various recreational purposes, but what does the science have to say about its efficacy on sexual problems? Let’s talk about...
Why We Need More Than Consent to Have Good Sex
Consent is the most fundamental part of any positive sexual encounter. But our conversations about consent could use some more depth. Asking for consent isn’t as simple as it sounds—and neither is giving it. So, let’s talk about why consent shouldn’t be the only focus...
Attaining the Ever-Elusive Orgasm During Sex
Having an orgasm doesn’t come easily to everyone—no pun intended. Whether due to culture, the stigma around masturbation, or lack of sex education, finding out how to pleasure yourself takes effort and persistence. As a sex therapist, I believe anyone who wants to...
Don’t Let a Diabetes Diagnosis Hamper Your Sex Life
A significant portion of the population is diabetic, and for many, this diagnosis feels like the death knell for their sex life. Happily, you can get back to a satisfying sex life even when you have diabetes. Below are some tips on how to do just that. What Happens to...
What’s Standing Between You and Your Ideal Erection
As men age, it’s incredibly common for their erections to change in size and duration. Due to the natural process of aging, many people jump to the conclusion that changes in their erections are erectile dysfunction. However, erectile dysfunction is a specific...