Sex After Cancer
Cancer affects an alarming number of people of all genders each year. And receiving a diagnosis can put a major wrench in your sex life, especially when you have recently been diagnosed. But getting diagnosed with cancer doesn’t mean your sex life is over. ...
How Women Can Feel More Empowered in the Bedroom
Many of us learned some sex-negative ideas during childhood. Sometimes these concepts came from parents, a religion we belonged to, the sex education we received, pornography, or even our peers. Yet, these ideas often linger into adulthood unless they are...
Tips for Enjoying Oral More – For the Giver and the Receiver
For some people, oral sex can feel more like a job than a fun, sexy activity. Below are some tips on how to enjoy giving oral sex and improve your skills at the same time. Consider the Power Dynamics Sometimes, oral sex feels disempowering, especially to...
Erotic Impact Play Tips
In theory, erotic impact play sounds hot. It involves a power exchange and someone taking control and the other relinquishing it. What’s not to love? But when it comes down to it, spanking someone (or agreeing to be spanked) can be downright intimidating. Here are...
Improve These 2 Sexual Skills to Upgrade Your Sex Life
Upgrading your sexual skillset is one of the most important things you can do to keep your sex life spicy. Here’s how to get better at kissing and fingering your partner. Mastering Makeouts After high school, many of us no longer try to improve our kissing skills....
Sensuality: The Missing Component From Your Sex Life
It’s never too late to update your sexual skillset. And one of the most important things you can do to improve it is by increasing your and your partner’s sensual expertise. Below are some tips on how to do exactly that. Becoming a Permanent Sexual Student An...
Decoding the Difference Between Questioning Your Sexuality and Sexual Orientation OCD
Many people are nervous before deciding to come out to their friends and family about their sexual orientation. But another phenomenon is sexual orientation obsessive-compulsive disorder, which has nothing to do with anxiety around coming out. However, sexual...
Top Three Reasons to Try Sex Toys
Sex toys are often seen as a last resort. If you can’t have an orgasm or your partner doesn’t reliably get you off, then you try a sex toy. But this doesn’t have to be the case, and it shouldn’t be the case! The stigma surrounding sex toys is needless and detrimental....
How to Step on the Gas Pedal of Your Sex Drive
The sex drive is something that appears differently in everyone. Some have consistently high libidos, while others have low levels of desire. When your sexual needs don’t match your partner’s, that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with either of you. Libido is...
Parenting Trans or Gender Non-Conforming Children
Let’s face it: it’s tough to be a kid. But if you add to that the complication of being a child who doesn’t identify with the sex they were assigned at birth or is not heterosexual, it can be even more complicated. However, with the right support, parents can gently...
Getting Sex Right the First Time
Statistics have shown that whether you enjoy hookup sex depends primarily on your gender. Women are drastically less likely to climax during a first-time encounter with a new partner, while men reach orgasm most of the time. This unfortunate “orgasm gap” continues...
Negotiating Different Levels of Desire
Sometimes, the biggest barrier to a fulfilling sex life begins before you even have sex. Everyone experiences periodic dips and peaks of sexual desire. But, if there is a prolonged period where someone experiences low or no sexual interest, it could be a sign of a...
Avoiding Sex? Here’s How to Fix That
Sexual avoidance can take many forms. You may knowingly look for excuses to avoid the sexual problems you’re facing in the bedroom—or it may be completely subconscious. But either way, avoiding sex can be a straightforward path toward a sexless relationship. Let’s...
What Do Your Fantasies Mean About Your Committed Relationship?
In our culture, monogamy is emphasized as the one “true” way to have a relationship. For some people, these beliefs about fidelity go so far as to include fantasies. And yet, a lot of people find that what they fantasize about is far from the constrictive boundaries...
Creating Mindfulness In the Bedroom—Whether You’re Single or in a Relationship
Most of us didn’t grow up with a good understanding of what mindfulness is. And understanding what mindfulness means for your sex life is even rarer. However, to get the most out of your sex life, it’s essential to find a way to tune into your body and become a...
Women’s Orgasms: A Primer
Women’s relationship to their orgasms has historically been a little bit thorny. Unfortunately, a lot of women have never experienced orgasm due to several factors: sexual pain, partner’s lack of sexual education, or even hesitation to touch themselves. And when women...
Your Brain is Your Most Important Sex Organ. Here’s How to Use It.
Sometimes sex isn’t just sex. Sex can also be a way to get a deeper look at your brain and its relationship with pleasure. If you feel disconnected from sex, it could be because of how you receive pleasure. Many different things can happen when you are feeling sexual...
Easy Tips for Spicing Up the Marriage
It’s not a sign of a bad marriage if your sex life seems to stall after many years together. Rather, it’s the sign of two busy people. But spicing up the marriage doesn’t happen effortlessly—you have to take intentional steps in order to add fire into your bedroom....
Getting Your Sex Life Back After Trauma
Shame isn’t just an emotion. For sexual trauma survivors, shame can show up in your body. Your emotional and physical boundaries are violated during a sexual assault, so it makes sense that you deal with shame in both places afterward. Below are some tips on how to...
Tips for Women Who Feel Disconnected From Their Bodies
It can be difficult for people of any gender—but especially women—to move from their minds into their bodies. Unfortunately, women are often socialized to see their bodies as a project that they should improve, rather than a vessel that can provide them endless...